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What Happens If Your Mother (Not Your Favorite Reality Star) Has Plastic Surgery?

Saturday, February 6th, 2010

Delia Ephron

Delia Ephron

Screenwriter, Playwright, Author

Posted: February 3, 2010 01:13 PM in HuffingtonPost.com

I haven’t been watching many reality shows lately because of the crying. There is simply too much of it. Last season on Project Runway, Christopher cried because he was sure that he was the only person in the world who would design a dress inspired by a rock (something I am sure he is wrong about). I have no idea how much crying there is on The Hills, since I was never a fan, but it did catch my attention in People magazine that Heidi Montag, star of the show, cried after she had ten plastic surgery procedures in one day. Heidi, I know from a quick Google search, is 23, although since her plastic surgery she looks 33. Which is actually something to cry about.

I have been interested in and done research on this subject spun slightly different: What happens if your mother (not your favorite reality star) has plastic surgery? This is the subject of my new novel for teenagers, The Girl with the Mermaid Hair.

If, as a teenager, you spend hours in front of a mirror deciding, say, whether one nostril is larger than the other or worrying whether your breasts point in different directions (typical teenage obsessing), do you outgrow this madness or make more radical choices if your mother comes home with larger lips, a smaller ass, a new chin, a different nose, bigger breasts? How do you feel if your mom suddenly doesn’t have any expression in her face? Or if you look into your mother’s eyes and no one is home?

Your main job as a teenager is to learn to love yourself. How can you do this if your mother hates herself?

In my research, what was so startling was how aware all the teenage girls were of their mother’s fear, or, more accurately, their hatred, of aging. One girl said, “Every time I wrinkle my forehead, my mother points it out and tells me not to. Even if I’m in the middle of a really important conversation.” Another spoke about “competitive dieting” with her mom, how she couldn’t help but engage in it even though she thought her mother’s obsession with fat was “crazy.” There is a study out this week from the Girl Scouts of the USA telling us what we already know, which is that the fashion industry and its use of ultra-thin models is making teenage girls too obsessed with being skinny, and distorting their body image. In my more limited unscientific research, the mothers are as strong an influence. Going on shopping trips with mom, usually a bonding experience, became all about hearing moms moan about their fat and rolls. Or seeing your mother trying on something, look in the mirror and say, “”I look ugly.”

I have vivid memories of my own adolescence when the main purpose of shop windows was not to see the clothes in them but my own reflection, when hours could be spent in front of a mirror deciding if my eyebrows matched. Emotionally, teen life is no different today, but now you can act on your own insecurities. You can fix them.

A lot of healthy acting out occurs in the mirror, as my research showed. Singing and dancing and even telling off people who hurt your feelings or trying on new identities. But there was also a lot of obsessing about body image. One girl got dressed using four mirrors, running from one to the next: one had good indoor lighting, one was a “skinny” mirror, one had natural light, one she could get the closest to. “If something is wrong with you,” a teenage girl said, “the mirror magnifies it.” Another said, “If I think something’s wrong with me, like my thighs are too fat, when I look in the mirror that’s all I see.”

God knows, I am not advocating growing old naturally, just to remember what a tender fragile time adolescence is. In my research, one teenage girl confided, “Seeing my mother after her surgery scared me to death.” We need our moms to be stable and secure. I have so many friends who will tell me with surprise, when looking at photos of themselves when they were younger, “Hey, I was really cute. I didn’t realize it.” No one does. You have to get older to realize it. Imagine if you got older and realized that you’d destroyed your younger self. You had operated it away.

Now that’s something to cry about.
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‘i want my mommy!’

Monday, October 27th, 2008

Normally, this phrase is a desperate cry, often through tears, in times of frustration, sadness, fear, disappointment. From a little kid.

Now, it’s often a soft internal utterance. Just stating a fact. From the part of me who will always be your daughter. From the little me for whom you will always be ‘my mommy.’

When I want to ask you a question about something that happened, that no one else would know, to clarify my memories, I want my mommy.

When I feel a new appreciation for something you did or who you were, when I want to thank you, I want my mommy.

When I want to share, mother-to-mother, I want my mommy.

When my son does or says something I am proud about,  I want my mommy.

When I see the late autumn day sun illuminating wildly colored leaves, I want my mommy.

When I realize no one has critiqued the recording on my answering machine, I want my mommy.

When I want to revisit a conversation we had 45 years ago, I want my mommy.

I know, I know. I can speak to her. I can hear her. She is alive in me, certainly. In a way.

Still, I want to see her make a goofy face, hear her sing quietly to my son as he falls asleep. I want to hold her hand and play with it during services, hear her talk in funny dialects and watch her laugh till the tears come.  I want to see her (my) feet. I want to smell her skin, smooth her eyebrow with my finger, to give her head a scratch and scratch that same place on her back under the bra strap, to love her.

Still, I want to give you happiness. Make you happy. See you being happy. Give you love. Love you. Lay with my head in your lap, your hand stroking my hair. Get your love.  That unique, uplifting, universe-filling, life-saving love I always got, could only get, from You and Dad.

I want my mommy. I want my mommy. I want my mommy.

THANKS, JULIE!

Monday, October 13th, 2008

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Shaunna Russell: HardWorking Woman!

Sunday, October 12th, 2008

Shaunna Russell: She\'s Amazing, Gracie! Submitted by: jennmarie russell

Shaunna Russell
Why she deserves to be celebrated as a hard working woman: Shaunna is a mother of 2, a wife, a minister, a full time cook for a catering company.  She never has time for herself.  She is always thinking of others.  She takes kids to camp in the summer and teaches them how to cook in her so called spare time.  She is the absolute hardest working woman I know.  She never just has down time.  When she does have time to do anything else, its spending time with her wonderful family and remodeling her beautiful house.  Shaunna deserves to be recognized as a hard working woman, as she is the epitome of what that actually means.

THANKS, Shauna, for all you do.

Love, HardWorking Woman

CONGRATULATIONS, GROOVY GIRLS!

Tuesday, June 3rd, 2008

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THE FOLLOWING is by TEAM CAPTAIN, LAURA RUSSO:

Imagine a woman…..

2 days and 40 miles. That’s right.
A group of good friends are working toward a common cause. Breast cancer effects all of us.
This past year has been my personal toughest. In Oct. 2006 my Mom was told her breast cancer had effected her bone marrow. All the years of chemo and radiation had altered her bone marrow and she was developing what looked like Leukemia. This was the first time she had to take a long term leave from work. She began staying with me more and more and that was an adjustment for everyone. I also ways told my Mom through all the ups and downs “Let me know when to worry” Well it was time to worry. We made the most of it. She had good friends come visit. She and another good friend were able to squeeze in a quick visit to the famous Mirival Spa between treatments. We went to a water park with all the grandkids. The main focus was lots of time with the family. Slowly her energy drained and she required more frequent treatments to maintain daily activities. She always could snuggle with the grandkids for a movie or story time. When she decided to stop treatment we all agreed with her decision. Luckily she did not suffer in the end and she died with the people she loved most around her on Aug. 5, 2007. Since then it has been a period of adjustment for all of us. The roller coaster continues. My goal with this walk to let her know that people are still fighting her amazing fight. Putting one foot in front of the other, just as she had to for so long. Another lesson I learned from her is the need to surround yourself with good people. Friends and family is what gets you through so thank you everyone. Thanks to the friends that listen to me then and now when I’m having a rough day. Thanks to the neighbors that pitched in with the kids when I had to run Mom to doctors appointments and when those appointments were no more. For those doing the walk with me, bring tissue, and for those donating, thank you. It really does take a village.
Laura

congrats to you all:

Laura Russo

Erin Ader

Jill Casey

Teresa Macdonald

Kathleen Pisterzi

Katie Pomroy

and THANKS!

Amie Russo

The power of a good idea

Monday, September 17th, 2007

From Art Institute, two accidental entrepreneurs emerge

Marianne Fairbanks, left, and Jane Palmer, founders of Noon Solar, which makes bags imbedded with solar panels that can recharge cell phones and other devices. University of Chicago business students adopted the company as a class project. Photo: Andreas Larsson

Most companies don’t start as political statements. But then, Jane Palmer and Marianne Fairbanks didn’t set out to start a business. They were making art. Friends from their master’s program at the Art Institute of Chicago, the women were discussing the issue of energy during the lead-up to the Iraq war when they hit upon an idea: solar-powered jackets and handbags that could charge cell phones and MP3 players.

The symbolism was simple: moving away from oil dependence and returning power to the people.

When displayed at an artists’ conference in Portland, Ore., in 2002, the items were supposed to be just another exhibit. But viewers wanted to buy the bags, and the women realized they had stumbled upon a marketable product.

“We were really unsure if we wanted to go into business,” Ms. Palmer says.

A year later, they decided to go for it. They teamed up with a student at the University of Chicago’s Graduate School of Business, who, along with his classmates, adopted the duo’s company, Noon Solar, as a class project and spent a year-and-a-half working on its business plan.

Meanwhile, Ms. Fairbanks, 32, worked as an instructor at the Art Institute and Ms. Palmer, 31, waited tables.

In 2004, Ms. Palmer’s parents invested $10,000 in seed money, which allowed them to incorporate and set up shop in Humboldt Park.

FINDING ANGELS

In the beginning, every step took far longer than expected. Ms. Fairbanks and Ms. Palmer both had studied textiles and had a network of artist friends to turn to for advice on materials, dyeing and photography for marketing. But the business world remained a mystery.

Noon Solar got a fundraising boost when a GSB professor, Waverly Deutsch, offered to step in as interim CEO for a year-and-a-half after the student-helpers graduated. She found angel investors, and, along with a bank loan, the company raised more than $125,000. This allowed the women to start working on the business full time last year, though they still moonlight one day a week at other jobs to help pay the bills. “There were so many mountains to climb. It has been daunting,” Ms. Fairbanks says.

GREAT REACTIONS

Aside from the solar panels, which are laminated onto fabric and sewn into the bags, the company uses only biodegradable materials like leather tanned with vegetable-based substances rather than heavy metals that cause pollution, and natural-dyed fabrics, all stitched together by a Costa Rican factory that abides by fair labor practices.

A handful of other U.S. companies are making solar-powered bags, but the women believe their level of environmental and humanitarian commitment sets them apart from the competition.

Noon Solar had its first product run last fall, with 50 satchel-style bags designed for men or women, sold primarily at two high-end boutiques in Chicago. The bags, which came in four shades of leather and retailed for $400 to $700, sold out quickly. At Robin Richman, which sold 15 bags, some shoppers came in specifically for the bags. Others purchased them after discovering them in the store.


Noon Solar’s founders say their commitment to environmental concerns sets their company and its bags apart from the competition.

“People have been very excited every time they learn there’s a solar panel in the bag,” says Annie Novotny, a saleswoman at the Damen Avenue boutique. “We’ve had really great reactions.” Ms. Fairbanks and Ms. Palmer have spent the past year designing a second round of styles — six shoulder and messenger bags in a variety of colors of leather and fabric, which they will start releasing in November. They also will launch a line of bags without solar panels, which will knock $75 to $100 off the retail price.

TRICKLEDOWN EFFECT

Two sales reps are currently approaching boutique owners and canvassing trade shows across the country to find interested outlets.

Next year, Ms. Fairbanks and Ms. Palmer hope to add a product line with magnets that allow people to buy a bunch of bags and move the solar panel among them. Eventually, the women would love to see copycat, eco-friendly solar designers emerge that fit more people’s price range.

“We want to start the trend,” Ms. Fairbanks says. “We want to make it exciting so it can trickle down and become the thing that’s sold at Target for $20.”

©2007 by Crain Communications Inc.

The brand woman

Monday, September 17th, 2007

Former sales ace spins gold from giveaways

“I didn’t know I would ever start a business,” Sarah Stopek Hirsch says. Photo: Aynsley Floyd

From the time she was six, Sarah Stopek Hirsch would tell her younger sisters to grab their allowance and head to her bedroom, where she’d hold a sale of old clothes and books — all that “cool big sister stuff” they’d fork over their quarters and dimes for. Now she’s running a bigger enterprise: Sublime Promotions LLC, which makes promotional items like pens, golf shirts and travel mugs with companies’ names on them. “I didn’t know I would ever start a business,” says Ms. Hirsch, 32, who founded the Chicago company three years ago. “But now that I’m doing it, it feels natural.”

In high school, she’d planned to be a doctor. But conversations with physicians during college convinced her medicine was becoming less lucrative and enjoyable. She switched her sights to law, but her mother suggested she could put her chemistry degree from Millikin University to work in something besides medicine. So she became a pharmaceutical rep for Upjohn Co., now part of Pfizer Inc.

By the time she was 25, Ms. Hirsch had won a BMW for being one of the top salespeople in the country, but she felt she’d hit a plateau. Then she realized she enjoyed giving doctors promotional pens and notepads more than selling the medication. So, against the advice of everyone she knew, she quit her job and became an independent contractor for MSM Promotions, which makes giveaway items. Within a year, she was making close to what she had earned at Upjohn. Two years after that, she was again a top saleswoman, landing big clients like Orbitz LLC.

Still, she thought she could do even better on her own.

BEYOND BEDROOM SALES

In 2003, Ms. Hirsch attended a conference for women entrepreneurs at Navy Pier. Being surrounded by women who had turned their ideas into million-dollar companies was the push she needed.

She networked, found office space on Michigan Avenue and was ready to go in 2004 when all 10 banks she went to for a loan turned her down. So she reluctantly called her grandmother, who agreed to give her a loan. The rest of her family pitched in by painting walls, putting up shelves and getting the computers configured. A few months and $300,000 later, she was ready to open her doors.

On her first day, she e-mailed her MSM Promotions customers to let them know she’d gone out on her own. One of those e-mails went to Mike Sands, then-chief operating officer at Orbitz, who had relied on her quick turnaround of big orders for customized T-shirts and fleece jackets. “The fact it’s last minute but it has to be perfect is really challenging,” says Mr. Sands, who kept Ms. Hirsch as his supplier after she started Sublime. “She is unflappable.”

After a year-and-a-half in business, Ms. Hirsch had five employees, hundreds of customers and a network of 5,000 manufacturers from Chicago to China. But she’d hit another plateau.

She again turned to a local organization for help, and was accepted into the Athena PowerLink Program, which provides mentoring for women by creating a board of advisers for their companies for one year. Her board members pushed her to delegate day-to-day duties so she could recruit new clients, introduced her to their contacts and set revenue projections by analyzing what was working during good months, rather than concluding some months were “luckier” than others.

Under their guidance, Ms. Hirsch brought in new clients like Merrill Lynch Capital and Corona Beer, and revenue jumped 65%. She’s upped the ante since her bedroom-sale days: Revenue is projected to be $3 million this year.

©2007 by Crain Communications Inc.

She hits the books, and dance floor

Monday, September 17th, 2007

21-year-old is never afraid of being the youngest in the room

Rania El-Sorrogy won $16,000 in three business plan competitions last spring. Photo: John R. Boehm

In March, Rania El-Sorrogy, wearing an enormous backpack, took the stage at a regional business plan competition for college students. She asked the audience if it looked familiar, and many nodded. Then she let the pack fall from her shoulders. It landed with a thud. Next she offered her solution. What if the heavy textbooks were bound so that students could remove individual chapters and leave the rest of the bulk at home? The judges loved the idea, and her Livre Libre bookbinding system beat 26 other entries to win first prize in the Idea To Product Competition, sponsored by the University of Texas at Austin.

“I had a problem, and I tried to come up with a way to solve it,” says Ms. El-Sorrogy, 21, of the overstuffed backpack she lugged to high school in Barrington and later while commuting to DePaul University, where she graduated with a degree in business administration in June.

A compulsive idea-generator, she has notebooks full of business concepts. Some, like an online gift registry for more than just weddings, are still in their infancy. But two ideas — Livre Libre and a video-streaming Web site for dance enthusiasts — are on their way to fruition.

The two projects won Ms. El-Sorrogy a total of $16,000 in three business plan competitions in the spring. She’s using the money, along with some funding from her mother, to start the companies.

In April 2006 she applied for a patent, which is pending, for Libre Livre when her 20th birthday prompted a panic because she hadn’t yet launched any of her ideas. She’s always been driven to solve a problem instead of waiting for someone else to do it for her, a quality she inherited from her mom, a bank executive who was the first in her family to attend college.

“Take pride in yourself, put yourself out there and be strong,” Ms. El-Sorrogy says of her mother’s lessons. “People will know that you’re an equal.”

GOING PLACES

Since applying for the patent, Ms. El-Sorrogy has surveyed high school and college students, toured bookbinding facilities and created a prototype that uses a tongue-and-groove system that connects paperback sections of a textbook into one hardcover. She has an alternative design that uses paperback sections that slide into each other.

Hurdles, and how to overcome them

Monday, September 17th, 2007

Balancing money, life and other matters

Teresa Ging, a former stock analyst and owner of Sugar Bliss Cake Boutique. Her initial request for a loan was turned down, but she’s now weighing three offers. Photo: Callie Lipkin

Their ranks may be growing, but young women entrepreneurs still face the challenges their predecessors faced, plus others because of their age. Here’s how they’ve handling them. Access to capital

Teresa Ging spent six years as a stock analyst on Wall Street before deciding to open Sugar Bliss Cake Boutique in the Loop this fall. She has a strong financial background, owns a condo and maintains a good credit history. So she was shocked when she was turned down for a small bank loan.

“The issue was I’m single,” says Ms. Ging, 29.

Although it’s illegal to ask a woman about her marital status, the loan officer indicated Ms. Ging’s lack of a second income was a problem.

“I was astonished,” she says. “If I was a man and had less credit history and was asking for a bigger loan, didn’t have a 401(k) or personal property, this would not have been an issue.”

She wrote a letter to the loan officer’s boss, who apologized profusely. The bank put together an attractive offer. She’s now deciding between that and two others, says Ms. Ging, who declined to name the bank because she doesn’t want to jeopardize their potential relationship.

Her experience is not unique. Venture capitalists and angel investors sometimes shy away from women in their childbearing years for fear their businesses will founder as their families take precedence. As a result, most women end up self-funding their startups with savings or through friends and family, experts say.

The best way to get funding from anyone is to have a solid business plan. Women can take advantage of resources like the Women’s Business Development Center, where counselors help women with business plans and loan applications. And, like Ms. Ging, they should cry foul at blatant discrimination.

“I encourage women not to tolerate it,” she says.

Lack of credit history and collateral

Banks often have good reason to deny loans to young entrepreneurs. They may have bad credit history or no credit history at all because they’re so young.

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Entrepreneurs need to realize it may take a while to build up that credit by demonstrating responsible financial management. They should limit themselves to only charging necessities onto one credit card, and paying off the balance monthly. Student loans must be repaid diligently. And before applying for a loan, they should check their credit scores through services like TransUnion, Equifax or Experian to uncover and fix any mistakes in their credit histories. Aiming low

Female students often are more likely to succumb to self-doubt than their male classmates, says Scott Whitaker, associate director of the entrepreneurship center at Northwestern University’s Kellogg School of Management. Women who wowed professors and won competitions for business ideas choose corporate jobs instead of entrepreneurship. Or they decide to start a small company with no growth plan instead of setting their sights much higher.

“We see that and discourage that thinking,” he says.

Although women-owned firms make up 28% of U.S. companies, they account for only 6.5% of employment and 4.2% of total receipts, according to the Small Business Administration. Part of the reason is 85% of women-owned companies are in retail and service sectors — lower-growth industries.

Managing growth

Women tend to be more risk-averse than men and less inclined to extend themselves financially.

One reason Kim Kleeman, 33, left her teaching job in 2003 to start Shakespeare Squared, a business writing and developing educational materials, was to spend more time with her children. She was pregnant with her second child and figured working at home would provide a better lifestyle.

But after her third child, she found herself trying to shush crying babies while on the phone with clients and waking in the middle of the night to a beeping fax machine. A-year-and-a-half ago, she moved to an office to keep her sanity.

It was an intimidating move involving $4,000 in overhead. So beforehand, she e-mailed editors at large publishers to introduce herself. Once she had eight projects lined up, she took the leap. She borrowed $5,500 from her father to cover the first month’s payroll for her two employees and planned to use extra office space as a tutoring center if it came to that. But, as new projects kept pouring in, it didn’t.

Now Ms. Kleeman has a 5,200-square-foot office, 20 employees and more than $2 million in revenue. And she found space across the street from her house, so she can get to a school play or home for dinner in minutes.

Work-life balance

Krista Kaur Meyers, who owns two women’s clothing boutiques on Southport Avenue, took only 10 days of maternity leave after each of her two children was born because work was so consuming.

She could work from home or bring the babies with her to the stores, Krista K Boutique and Krista K Maternity & Baby. But the challenge of balancing work and family continues.

Hiring trustworthy store managers has been the key, says Ms. Meyers, 35. She leaves them in charge after 5 p.m. so she can have dinner with her family, even if that means working until 11 p.m. after putting the kids to bed. Her husband rearranges his work schedule to make sure he’s home when she needs to travel for buying trips, and they both commit to as many weekends together as possible.

©2007 by Crain Communications Inc.

Congratulations, Bev Byron!

Sunday, August 19th, 2007

ANNOUNCING OUR FIRST ‘SHE’S AMAZING, GRACIE’ AWARD RECIPIENT: Beverly Byron RN, MSN, LNC, from Silver Spring, Maryland.

this is what her ‘enterer’ said about her:

Why she deserves to be celebrated as a hard working woman: she not only works extremely hard at her job as a Nurse Educator which mean she sometimes has to work weekend or evenings. Her passion is telling everyone about Shaken Baby Syndrome prevention. She also is a co-chair for the Females in Training running group which is part of the Howard County Striders. She says she loves running and encouraging women to feel good about themselves ,by getting fit. Her motto is ” someone has to be last” and she has a t-shirt to prove it.

Thanks, Beverly, for making the world a little better. Please enjoy your exclusive ‘HardWorkingWoman’ tee. We’d love to see a photo of you wearing it!